I want to know why, but I get nothing, nothing from God and nothing good from friends. Eldredge says why is the wrong question, he says that "what do you want me to learn from this," is the better ? I was really struggling with this the other AM while reading Desrire. I have avoided this book for some time but finally picked it up. As I looked at it lying on the coffee table I saw the letters that made up the title and it occured to me that I only needed to add one letter to make up my deceased daughters name. ( That even hurts to write that just now) But by adding an "A" between the 'r' and the 'e', you change it to Desirae. I began asking why and was very sad and frustrated to get nothing, again. As I contemplated this, ( I knew God wouldn't answer,) I was taught a lesson by my 4 year old grandson 'Derek'. I told him to go back inside and finish his breakfast that he had just insisted that I make for him. HE answered with a sullen "Why". I have been trying to get him to stop arguing and do as he is told, and stop asking 'why' every time I, or anyone else tells him to do something. Now I wonder if that is how I sound to God when I ask why...again...and again.